Look for the Glimmers

Here is a little noticing practice for living in the midst of this gorgeous ruckus.

As you go through your day look for the glimmers*. Your list may be long — filled with things to figure out, problems to solve, tasks to accomplish, people to get back to, groceries to shop for, but there’s always room for a glimmer. What constitutes a glimmer you might say . . .

A glimmer is the opposite of a trigger

A glimmer is a small moment of goodness, truth, or beauty

Glimmers inspire your thinking

Glimmers warm your heart

Glimmers cue a degree of safety, serve to regulate your nervous system

Glimmers can transform busyness into fullness. Each day brings with it hundreds of glimmers. Noticing glimmers is a powerful healing practice that adds up over time. Becoming a glimmer seeker will change your brain and your life

Remember to look for the glimmers. It is easy to forget until you make it a habit.

Warmly,
Lyedie

Photo by Elizabeth Ungerleider, with gratitude
* The concept of glimmers from Sarah Jackson, with gratitude

A Riff and a Practice from the Archives . . .

June 15th 2022

I just realized, it’s been five years since I turned my longing into a project and dedicated my coaching practice to the longings of women. So, to mark the occasion, I dug into the archives and found this treatise on longings from that spring of 2016. Admittedly, a lot has changed since then — And I remain steadfast in my belief that staying connected to the call of our deepest longings provides us each with a beacon in these times and gives us access to becoming warriors of the human spirit.

Here is my riff on the language of longings and the offer of a reflection practice for these languid days of summer written in April of 2016. I think I just may have become less wordy since then . . . :-)

Longings Are a Yearning Toward Wholeness 

Longings are a deeply felt full-bodied conversation that is always going on between self and spirit, self and the world, self and others. They are a specific kind of desire that take up residence in our bodies, our emotions, and in our thoughts. Longings are a yearning towards wholeness that is involuntary. You may find yourself feeling stuck or somehow disconnected simply because you are not currently acquainted with your deepest longings. With a recklessly ambivalent relationship to desire, our culture has obscured the feminine art of listening for and attending to our longings. Following these instructions will initiate you into a practice of full-bodied listening. This is an invitation to attune to the language and voices of an essential conversation that you need to hear amidst the din and the ruckus of everyday life. 

Longings speak their very own language. They “speak” in images, poetry, song, and occasionally in commands. Longings communicate in the turn of the phrase, in the movement of dance, soft clay, wet paint, bread dough, broken dishes, split infinitives.  Especially when we are at the height of our sexual prowess, longings express themselves in sexual desire that demands our attention and can be quite mischievous in nature. Being afraid of this dims our capacity for sensuality. Longings do not come in tidy packages; you will find that they are not subject to the rules of rationality. 

Longings often present themselves as wishful thinking, fierce desire or smoldering ambition. Often, we feel them deeply in our body-mind in the form of yearning, aching, pining, craving, hunger, thirst, a pang. In its earliest definitions longing means to summon. Longings swell our hearts with unexpected enthusiasm, or the tenderness of an unresolved loss that needs our attention.  Truth is, our deepest longings are often the quiet ones. 

Longings that have gone underground surface when something reminds us of them. When my life fills with work imperatives, my longing for the domestic side of life shows up as a strong tug just under my breastbone whenever I see a young women with a baby sleeping against her chest, cherry tomatoes and peas in a garden, and sheets hung neatly on a clothesline − I attend to that longing by keeping an altar at my kitchen sink, ritually unloading the dishwasher as a start to my day, air drying my laundry whenever possible, and coaching women who are wrestling with work and life balance issues in the mother / warrior phase of life. 

The Practice: 

Begin - Become Fully Acquainted With Your Longings (Without having to do anything about it right away)

A Week or So of Noticing and Reflecting

This is a Step One Practice. In the spiral of the creative process it is a beginning that is always good to circle around to, it keeps us fresh and new. The thing to pay attention to here is to learn the language of your longings so that you can hear how life calls to you. This practice will naturally inspire you towards your authentic response to that call. If you approach it with curiosity, some gritty daily discipline, and a smidge of courage, it will open up your emotional intelligence, sensual receptivity, and playful nature. You may feel as if you are recovering a long lost lover, or perhaps even discovering her for the first time.  Hold your discoveries from this practice close to your heart and allow them to incubate. Share them only with a trusted few. Keep them safe and consider carefully when and how to bring them out into the light of day. 

Start by Noticing. Invite yourself to slow down on certain occasions as you go through your day. The occasions you want to slow down for are when something sparks a heart centered tug (desire, elation or sadness) in you. Slow down and invite all of your senses into that moment. What sparks your longing could be almost anything: a person, place, or thing, a song, the sound of a specific musical instrument, a bird call, a dance, a painting, a smell, a poem, a gesture, an activity, an idea, a color, a texture . . . Get really curious about the nature of this tug. Pay close attention to specificity; the specific things that spark your longing, and the specific nature of the longing as it arises within you. Choose one particular instance to reflect on at the end of the day or first thing next morning. 

(Here are some examples from my practice reflections over the years: There is an eight word line in one of Joni Mitchell’s songs that pierces my heart and sends a shudder through my body every time I hear it . . . The smell that emits from the ground-ivy in my freshly mown lawn makes me want to dance with joy . . .  The moist edges of that man’s lips inspires a exquisite gurgle in my pelvic region that almost hurts. ) 

Reflect on What You Notice: Jot down some notes about what you noticed in a journal dedicated to this purpose. Use these questions as a start. 

1. Choose one longing that you discovered today that is of particular interest. Briefly describe the spark and the tug using language as sense filled and specific to the experience as you can. 

2. What thoughts are associated with it? 

3. Were your thoughts past, present, or future oriented? 

4. Does it have a specific idea or ambition associated with it, or is it telling you about something that you love with no logical direction or instruction? (Describe briefly)

5. What is it that you know in your gut about this longing today? 

6. What is it that remains a mystery to you today?

Review: At the end of your week review your notes and look for themes in the content of your longings, and their languages. 

Honor What You Discover: Another way to further bring these tender wishes and dreams out into the air and sunlight is by making an altar for your longings. Collect a few things that represent your longings to you. Arrange them beautifully in a place that it is safe (away from curiously unaware children and any unsupportive adults) and where you can tend to it easily. A place where you just inevitably encounter it every day as a part of your routine is good. (My altar started almost inadvertently on the windowsill of my kitchen sink, back in 1983. A good friend of mine kept hers on the dashboard of her car for years.) 

The Call to Action: At some point longings start to point us in a direction and we experience a call to action. Projects, goals, new directions start to come into focus. It all starts to coalesce into the golden thread of a call. Urgency, passion and determination, will come on line. Whether the call is to make a quilt for your granddaughter, end a relationship, start something new, finish that book you started, or relocate to another continent, it is good to gather your forces and get some support as you initiate action and move into the arena of the creative process. 

Responding to the Call of Your Longings 

Wise women have known for centuries that longings can wreak havoc in our lives when we don’t meet them with our practical integrated self.  Acting to fulfill a longing, by its very nature, can upset the familiar “normal” of our lives and often precipitates change. Interpreting, tending, and fulfilling longings skillfully is a critical part of learning how to live authentically, and dare greatly without just making a big mess of things. Understanding how the phases of our lives color our longings, and how to skillfully respond accordingly requires the support and structure of a guide, mentor or coach. We are talking about the mysteries here, and the call to step into a new level of learning to trust yourself and the world. 

The Longings Project was born out of my longing to witness (in my lifetime) the beauty, truth and goodness that will be unleashed when more women are able to fulfill their deepest longings. I guess you could say it is my Maja Project. Although I do have a sense of urgency about this, I also believe that longings are expressions of our most intimate selves and they require protection during their incubation phase. Please be gentle with yourself, and with your tender longings as you gain their acquaintance. Timing is of the essence in matters of longing and slower is often more expedient at the beginning of almost anything. When you find you need help with attending to, interpreting, or fulfilling your longings please feel free to contact me. We can start with a free 20-minute phone conversation during which we’ll cover: 

• What it will mean for you to respond to the call of your longings. 

• Why now?

• Your next steps.

• What is it that is longing for you?

I can also answer any questions you may have about engaging in the coaching process and how my unique combination of encouragement and practical support can help you live more closely connected to your gorgeous longing and step into your most radiant self.

Tiny-little-practices-that-make-a-difference — Fostering . . .

Here is the second in a series of tiny-little-practices-that-make-a-difference.

Now that things are opening up, what is it that you want to foster?

To Foster: Derived from the old English verb fōstrian meaning to nourish, the current dictionary definition reads: To promote the growth or development of; to further encourage and affirm.

Transitioning into a new normal is an opportunity to be conscious about where we put our attention and energy. Fostering is a remarkably powerful human activity that we invest wisely, or otherwise, depending on how intentional we are. Fostering is at the heart of mentoring, teaching, parenting, creative endeavors, and any good leadership. (There are times that we might catch ourselves fostering a negativity in our lives that is giving rise to hardship and struggle . . .)

Here are some reflection questions to consider:

What is it that you are fostering these days? 

To what do I give encouragement through my actions?

To whom do I give encouragement and affirmation? 

Looking over your responses to these last two questions . . .

How in alignment with my deepest longings is my fostering activity?

Are there any energy leaks or distractions I feel the need to address?

Are there any shifts or changes I would like to make in my fostering activities? 

Daily questions to carry forward:

What would I like to foster or encourage today? What simple action might this require?

Who needs my affirmation and encouragement? In what way can I offer it?

Where can I go for the affirmation and encouragement I need to stay connected to the golden threads in the tapestry of my life? 

And here is a poem that I hope will offer encouragement as you pick up this tiny little practice . . .

It Is I Who Must Begin
- Václav Havel

It is I who must begin.
Once I begin, once I try —
here and now,
right where I am,
not excusing myself
by saying things
would be easier elsewhere,
without grand speeches and
ostentatious gestures,
but all the more persistently
— to live in harmony
with the "voice of Being," as I
understand it within myself
— as soon as I begin that,
I suddenly discover,
to my surprise, that
I am neither the only one,
nor the first,
nor the most important one
to have set out
upon that road.

Whether all is really lost
or not depends entirely on
whether or not I am lost.

So . . . How do we do this? How do we keep up the good work?

So . . . How do we do this? How do we keep up the good work?

Out in the middle of South Pond last week, I was paddling with my dear friend, Helaine, and I found myself saying, I know I’m not alone in this — I just find I need to say it out loud; I’m feeling the uncertainty of these times and the warming of the planet in my very being so deeply . . . It is taking effort to keep my heart open and my energy up and resourceful. Helaine listened and concurred. Helaine is a good listener.

The pair of Loons that I’ve been communing with in the last few months were swimming nearby, and just then the one chick they have been fiercely protecting all summer dove below the surface of the water. I’ve been observing this little one — first riding on her parents’ back with her two siblings, then swimming alongside them solo, and now we saw that she had just learned to dive into the deep!

Often these days my heart feels as if it is dropping out of my chest (Do you know what I mean?) and then something I love, something pin feathered and brave, brings support back up under my breast bone once again. The practices in the Daily Activists’ Log are some of what helps me to keep showing up enough to be out there communing with the loons, while staying engaged with what the world seems to need from me now.

I’m also hearing words from people like Toni Morrison, Clarissa Pinkola Estes, and Martin Shaw that call me into my staying power.

If you are free, you need to free somebody else. If you have some power, then you need to empower somebody else. Toni Morrison

* * *

My friends, do not lose heart. We were made for these times . . . Clarissa Pinkola Estes

* * *

The nightworld is where we are. I say it. I say it till we may hear it.
And in that darkness, we remember what we love the most.
That itself is the candle. Martin Shaw

So on behalf finding the candle by remembering what we love the most, the Daily Activist’s Log, which I first published in 2016, is my mid-summer offering. May it support you to make your contribution and to keeping up your resolve in these tumultuous times. Love, after all, is a verb.

Click here to access the original post and to download the Daily Activists’ Log.

Warmly, Lyedie

Final note: Remember to keep making breakfast, making love, and making some trouble on behalf of beauty truth and goodness . . .

Attuning to the Gorgeous Ruckus of Summer

Mary Oliver’s last book, Upstream, is here at the top of the pile by my Blue Chair. Have you read it yet? I’m inspired by the declaration that she placed carefully on Page 8, “Attention is the beginning of devotion.” That placement was clearly very intentional on Mary’s part, so I sat up and took notice when I read it. I’ve thought a lot about attention over the years, and I feel the intensity of her writerly gaze leap up from the page there, for I have never thought of attention as devotion before. So holding the idea that attention is the beginning of devotion, I turned towards what has captured my attention of late. Summer, in all its warmth and glory has expanded my heart. The cycles inherent in life have been on my mind. I’m starting to see clearly that our very well-being is dependent on our developing effective ways to attune-to and work-actively-with the cyclical nature of the gorgeous raucous. Yes, and attuning is a sensitive activity. It is a series of often small, responsive moves that generate a life enhancing coherence. I dare say, it is the feminine in devoted action.

Summer is the fullest expression of the gorgeous ruckus. Especially, here at the 45th Parallel North, we look forward to it all year and — just like with lottery winnings or rainbow money — we spend it many times over in our imaginations. The abundant apex of daylight hours that nature tenders to us all on the Summer Solstice (15 hours and 37 minutes) has a demanding invitation in it. “Grab hold of this! Enjoy this! Use it well!” The natural world splendidly orients toward responding to this invitation. In the clock-time trance of our linear calendars, the comfort of climate controlled four walls, and the tyranny of our checklists; we humans leave a lot of that warmth and sunshine out of consideration. This constitutes is a lack of attunement.

So as you hone your summer plans here a few questions to devote some attention to if you would like to attune to the gorgeous ruckus:

• Is there a seed-longing that I’m harboring that requires the warmth and sunshine of summer?

• Is there an opportunity I’d like to seize?

• Is there a new rhythm, ritual, or routine that I’d like to put in place with the buoyancy that summer affords?

• Is there a “cat” I’d like to be sure hang out with in the sun?

• What did I most enjoy about summer as a child, and how might I dip back into those experiences somehow this summer?

• When the autumnal equinox rolls around — when the daylight hours have waned back to 12 hours and 7 minutes and the air has gone crisp — what might I regret about how I spent the summer that could be attended to now with a little planning and intentionality?

Looking back over my responses to the questions above , in what way can I attune my plans for the coming months to the invitation of summer?

The summer invites us to slow down and to seize the day all at once. It requires holding the exquisite polarity of claiming life and releasing our grip on it.

Devote yourself to splendid. You might find it will require being fierce about freeing your attention from the linear trance to whatever degree you can. In the gorgeous raucous splendid is splendid, however small or grand.

Please be brave enough to tune in to your deepest longings . . . And remember to make breakfast. Make love. Make some trouble on behalf of beauty, truth, and goodness.

And thank you for the precious attention you gave to reading this post! Lyedie

Starting your day with a potent pause . . .

It's up!! The Fulfillment Journal is now freely available to you as you start your day!

These are crazy times we are living in. Normalcy has been pitched out of our political system. People are describing to me how they are reeling from the effects of disruptive uncertainty and paralyzed by the hungry ghosts in the relentless news feed. Daring greatly is called for now, and our deepest longings and callings can seem audacious. With the Fulfillment Journal I offer you a practice that is simple and sustainable. Working with it for 10 minutes each morning will help you keep replenishing your resolve to fulfill your longing, to make your contribution, and to enjoy the gift of living on this beautiful planet.

Click here to download this basic version of my Fulfillment Journal to help you start your day with what deeply matters to you. I'm a big believer in starting with a pause to connect, reflect, replenish, and then set a trajectory for your day. Begin to develop the habit of dropping in with this page on a daily basis . . . but if you find yourself struggling to forge that discipline, don't worry—many have reported that it provides a significant uplift when they are feeling un-tethered or discouraged, however often they remember to make use of it.

This is a potent practice:

3/1/2017 Dear Lyedie, I have been using your 10 minute practice for several weeks now,
and have found it immensely, wonderfully inspiring :)

3/27/2018 - Dear Lyedie, Now looking back over the year I can see that your 10 minute practice is what got me started with finding this dream job overseas and getting started on this new project.

Yes! This is the small stuff that reverberates . . . builds on itself  . . . and generates transformation.

Please be brave enough to tune in to your deepest longings . . . And always remember to make breakfast. Make love. Make some trouble on behalf of beauty, truth, and goodness.

Thank you for everything you do to keep putting power in the hands of love.

Warmly, Lyedie

I hope you have found this helpful in some way. If you are looking to make a shift in your approach to life — to developing your resilience and to getting on to fulfilling  those longings, click here to learn more about working with me. Or click here to schedule a free 20 minute discovery session with me.

Your Greatest Resource is . . .Your Attention

Your attention itself is essentially your greatest resource. As I see it, managing your attention well is a key to fulfillment and to developing the resilience we all need in these times. Lyedie
 
It is mid-January. The frenzy of resolution-making is settling down, and I find this to be a good time to hunker down into the basics so as to set a solid trajectory for the year. So please bear with me, and consider your attention itself as a resource — I'm defining attention here as being the flow of the most essential energy particles that you direct (consciously and/or unconsciously) as you move through life. Within this definition, thoughts and feelings are forms of attention.
 
Here are a few questions to help you explore and assess how resourcefully you are working with the essential currency of your own attention. 

1. Locating your attention: Where has your attention been in the last hour? Has it been out the window, on your best friend in high school or, deep in the project you've been working on? Has it been in the past (remembering), the present (now), or in the future (planning)? Have you been directing it, or has it been commandeered somehow?
 
Here is a surprisingly beneficial little practice: Stop yourself a few times a day and just notice where your attention is located. Setting a timer on your smartphone to prompt yourself to take note of this will gently help you awaken to your attention. After all, where your attention is is where you are. Choosing to notice, in and of itself, is an act of taking control and directing your attention.
 
2. Then there is the quality of your attention: What is the quality of attention you are giving to this moment?  Is it focused and penetrating, or is it diffuse and receptive? As you consider these words is your brow slightly furrowed as you engage your focused attention in an effort to understand, or is your brow soft indicating that your quality of attention may be more receptive? What kind of attention you give to what, and when, can make a big difference in the quality of your experience and the quality of what you produce.
 
3. And how do you decide?  How aware are you of your default priorities? Do you tend to put attention on making progress or tending to things?  Do you approach challenges by springing in to action, seeking perspective, fostering others, or nourishing yourself? Which of these areas do you privilege in your approach to life?
 
Getting back to the basics of working with our attention and energy provides foundational support to working effectively with the balance of work - rest - play - collapse that is critical to developing resilience. This can allow for making good contact with the ache of our longings, and then to getting around to fulfilling them. As the prima ballerina, Maria Tallchief, so aptly revealed to to me many years ago, “My favorite class is still Ballet I.”
 
I hope you have found this helpful in some way. If you are looking to make a shift in your approach to life — to developing your resilience and to getting on to fulfilling those longings, click here to learn more about working with me. Or go ahead and just schedule a discovery session with me.
 
Warmly, Lyedie

 

Why Poetry is a Necessary Luxury

Good morning,

Lyedie here again from my blue chair.

The crocuses are bursting forth here in New England, and it has been about a year now since I launched The Longings Project. The irony of having chosen this year to dedicate myself to fulfillment of the personal and professional longings of women is not lost on me — I have to admit, there have been times when I heard a booming voice saying, "How dare you put the longings of women at the forefront!" 

Here is the thing I have to say to that booming voice. We can't have true fulfillment without longings. Longings are Point One on the trek to fulfillment. Point One is where we set our direction. When we skip over Point One, we easily set off on rudderless adventures, driven by the winds of necessity and other people's worn itineraries. That is why I dare.

Longings give us access to living life with the heart of the Lover. (One of four members of the archetypal Wisdom Council that I offered you a few weeks back in the Daily Activist's Log) Lover is the one who feels and who loves life. She gives us access to our emotional intelligence and to our playful nature. When the Lover isn't firmly in her seat at your council, life starts to lose color and texture.  Your feeling life recedes and the dry winds of 'shoulds' and 'what ifs' begin to pervade.  Some people report feeling as if they are just going through the motions, or that they feel lifeless, even dead inside — dreams remain untapped.

Longings are the sparks and tugs of the Lover.  Glimpses of the future breaking through into the present, calling us into the next chapter of our lives. Longings speak through our felt sense, the little details of life, the exquisite swelling of our heart, the tears welling up in our eyes. There are times that we can barely feel the spark and the tug of longing, and other times that unrequited longing is burning holes through our lives . . .

One of the languages of longing is poetry. We are living in a moment in time when our very language defends against matters of the heart. Poetry, as David Whyte suggests, is language that melts through this defense and gives us access to the territory of the heart. Often we are quick to jump to instruction manual language that tells how to do it faster, more efficiently, more effectively and we skip right past the poetry that makes it all worth while.

Poets re-acquaint us with the language of longing, inviting us to live closer to ourselves, to our loved ones, and to the mystery that gives rise to a meaningful life. Nayyirah Waheed whispers about the courage it takes to put longing first in a tiny poem that resounds in my heart.

flower work
is
not easy.
remaining
soft in fire
takes
time.
 

The poet Brooke MacNamara offers us an intimate glimpse into her response to the jug breaking political event of 2016 in her poem Upon Learning Donald Trump Has Been Elected POTUS, I Clean the House

Mold in the toilets must be scrubbed,
and my toddler’s spills demand my supplication.
I always hate the beginning of cleaning,
and the mess gets bigger
before what’s under begins to shine.
Some things must be discarded
but the little gifted sailboat mug
will be glued back together for my boy.
Now, head bowed
and crowned with earned beads of sweat,
I’m humming along and my husband
joins my effort. The bad news is:
unearthing, we don’t know what we’ll find.
The good news is: we don’t know what we’ll find.
My love, help me lift the weight
of the bed we’ve been sleeping in
so we can face what’s been collecting
under it in the dark. In the corner back there,
I see my lost heirloom ring - ring of my lineage -
has been resting against a dead fly

Mary Oliver slyly invites us to kneel down in the grass, even invites us to be idle and blessed, before she flings a heart-of-the-matter question right at us in her poem The Summer Day.

Who made the world?
Who made the swan, and the black bear?
Who made the grasshopper?
This grasshopper, I mean-
the one who has flung herself out of the grass,
the one who is eating sugar out of my hand,
who is moving her jaws back and forth instead of up and down-
who is gazing around with her enormous and complicated eyes.
Now she lifts her pale forearms and thoroughly washes her face.
Now she snaps her wings open, and floats away.
I don't know exactly what a prayer is.
I do know how to pay attention, how to fall down
into the grass, how to kneel down in the grass,
how to be idle and blessed, how to stroll through the fields,
which is what I have been doing all day.
Tell me, what else should I have done?
Doesn't everything die at last, and too soon?
Tell me, what is it you plan to do
with your one wild and precious life?

One thing my life has taught me is that the greatest acts of courage are the small ones.  Like remaining soft in fire — Like saying 'no' to the news on occasion, and then saying 'yes' to poetry. Carving out time to spend with poetry has become a necessary luxury for me. Reading poetry invites the Lover to take her seat more firmly at the table of my Wisdom Council. It helps me to stay connected to not just what I care about, but to the full bodied felt sense of caring itself. 

Lately, I've been keeping a pile of poetry books beside my blue chair. Yesterday, in the quiet of the morning, I read an old favorite over again out loud to myself. Hearing Rilke's words become my own, and then reverberate in my kitchen gave strength to my resolve to hold fast to dreams, my own and yours.

You see, I want a lot.
Perhaps I want everything:
the darkness that comes with every infinite fall
and the shivering blaze of every step up.

So many live on and want nothing
and are raised to the rank of prince
by the slippery ease of their light judgments.

But what you love to see are faces
that so work and feel thirst....

You have not grown old, and it is not too late
to dive into your increasing depths
where life calmly gives out its own secret.

 Rainer Maria Rilke, trans. by Robert Bly

I urge you to make a place for Lover on your Wisdom Council, and to keep your favorite poets by your side.  Feel free to contact me if you'd like learn more about how I can assist you on your trek to fulfillment. 

Thank you for taking a little of your precious time to read this today. May we all have the courage to be open to the mystery in our every day, to put our strength in service of the good, and to celebrate the joys of fulfillment.

Dare to have your longings, and thanks again!

Lyedie

Daily Activism - How do you start your day?

How do you start your day? My day generally begins with a cup of coffee in my blue chair, and 10 minutes spent reflecting and planning with a morning page. In the last few weeks, my sense of being a citizen (a citizen of our nation and the world) has deepened and expanded. So much so that it caused me to update my morning page. I've started calling it my Daily Activist's Log, and for the next few weeks, I'm making it widely available here.

Perhaps you share in this expanding sense of citizenship? If so, you might want to give 10 minutes of your morning to trying this out, especially if these sorts of things are coming up for you:
- the need to keep up your good work in the uncertainty of our times
- the desire to expand your sphere of influence — and make it felt
- a longing to put power in the hands of skillful love
- an awareness that this is not just a sprint, it is a marathon
Click here if you'd like to download the morning page.

As Jean Houston recently pointed out to me, uncertainty seems to have reached truly mythic proportions. We are cracking away from the expected, into times that require an upgrade of the pioneering spirit. "To succeed we can no longer go it alone, but must partner with one another to share innovative and creative ways in which to rethink and restructure our individual existence within the context of our expanding global communities." We are not going to succeed with just the usual activist tactics. I see a need to call in the feminine and upgrade our activism. Some are calling it the Politics of Love.  What ever words you are using, there is a need to marshal all the love, wisdom and energy that we can. Pacing and elegant use of energy is called for in this marathon

Keeping fit for the long haul starts with each one of us, every morning, when we set the trajectory for our day. One of the secrets to creatively living through tumultuous times is to develop the art of the potent pause. There are a number of ways to pause mindfully; meditation, martial arts, even walking being among them. One way to develop the art of pausing potently is to maintain the practice of starting the day with well orchestrated time to reflect, and to align your attention and energy. 10 minutes can wield a truly alchemical shift in your day, when it is well orchestrated.

If you are in for the duration, spend 10 morning minutes with My Daily Activist's Log for a few days or a week. Then please let me know how well this potent pause rocks you into your day. It is a work in progress, so I welcome your response. My hope is that your success with it contributes to our collective rise to the great task before us. Feel free to tinker with it and make it yours. If you find you want help with implementing it, click here to learn more about my work or just contact me directly.

I know, I do get lofty when I'm in my blue chair. Then I put away the dishes and I rock into my day. I feel very lucky to be able to carve out 10 minutes of quiet in the morning, and one thing that really motivates me is my longing for all beings on the planet to someday to be able to enjoy this same privilege.

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Onward we go!

Those dilemmas that keep us up at night

I'm wondering if something other than thermal fluctuations is keeping you up at night? Perhaps you, like many others I've encountered recently, have a burning question or a dilemma that is churning? While I’m a big believer in giving things time to coalesce, sometimes we just get stuck in an indecisive loop that commandeers our attention during the day, and robs us of sleep at night. If you, or someone you know is up nights with a dilemma, perhaps I can be of help.

Dilemmas are actually very cool things. When you dive into one, with proper guidance, you discover that they have an anatomy.  They tell you what you hold dear and what you fear.  Within their structure they hold a lot of truth, along with some false or outmoded assumptions.  Without fail they hold the key to how to get unstuck along with wisdom about how to pace yourself as they lose their hold on you.

• Often we can solve dilemmas very simply with perspective and new action steps

• Sometimes we find we can to learn to hold them differently

• At times we can change our relationship to them

• On occasion, once we have fully explored them, they just loosen their grip and resolve themselves

Please don’t let the summer, and your precious life currency, get consumed unnecessarily by staying stuck in a dilemma. There are times when action is required — transformational action, that doesn’t just try to push the river, but dives deeply into it and converts the energy that is trapped below the surface. I offer Afternoon Clarity Sessions that support while you dive youin to the churn and unlock the gifts of a dilemma.

Results: What are some sure signs that you have succeeded at unsticking a dilemma?

• More sleep at night

• A path forward is apparent and you have more courage to get on it and go

• Your attention is freer to dream, create, enjoy people, and get things done

• Buoyant energy is available once again

• A sense of ease returns to your body, mind, and spirit

• Your sense of humor returns

If you are churning on a dilemma and you'd like some help, Click here or give me a call (802-881-3124) to schedule your session.

Warmly,

Lyedie

Great Questions

Great questions spring from the mouths of babes. . .

One afternoon, way back when I was a young mother, I was busy putting groceries away and thinking about making dinner when my 7 year old daughter, Sara, burst into the kitchen with a burning question, “Hey Mom! What I want to know is, how come God doesn’t talk to me the way he talked to Noah?”  I knew it was a burning question because of her wide stance and the way she had her hands on her hips. I found out later that her teacher had just read Noah's Ark to the class in school that day.

My first response was internal, ‘Damn, he never talks to me the way he talked to Noah, either!’ Then I managed to slow down and stop bustling around in the kitchen. We had a talk about the Bible's booming voice of God and I started to articulate for her, and for myself, the many ways that God "speaks" to us.  Sara’s question has reverberated in my life for years. I’m so grateful that she asked it and that I stopped long enough to listen. For the life of me I can’t remember what I cooked for dinner that night.

Initially, Sara’s question roused me to examine the masculine voice of God that so often prevails my western Judeo-Christian lineage. Her question was what prodded me into discovering the feminine face of God. It led me to wondering, ‘How is it that we just Know? What senses inform me? How accurate is my interpretation of what I intuit? How can I tell? How could I have missed that? From where do I feel enough certainty to act?’ Since that day you could say I’ve been on a quest to “listen” (active mode) and to “hear” (receptive mode) more, better.

Eventually it led me to my interest in leadership.  In graduate school and subsequent trainings I specialized in the nature of creativity, innovation and emergence and the multifaceted aspects of what constitutes authority. Now the focus has evolved into seeing how Noah’s brilliant response to massive flooding is a story about a leader who innovated because he had a glimpse of the highest future and he managed to act on it. All of this lofty business translates directly into practical application in my daily coaching and facilitation practice. Yes! Now almost thirty years later, I can trace all that back to my little girl’s great question. And I'm still, always, honing my listening skills.

Great questions. They show up in our lives in the darnedest places, when we least expect them. The trick is to recognize them and to open to letting them reverberate and inform us. Tracing the reverberation can reveal the narrative of your life and give you a strong glimpse of what is calling you forward.

What is calling you forward?

What might you need to let go of to move toward that calling?

What action will it require?

What joy will it bring?

When questions like these start to burn in you, contact me.  I can help you cross into the next chapter of your adventure.

Getting More Productive: Tip #1 and Four Simple Truths

Do you find yourself longing to be more productive?

Well, you are not alone. This longing is shared by many of us as we navigate the complexity of modern life. There is no one secret to becoming more productive ­­-- I have no formula for success to offer. What I've found is that for each of us the path to being truly productive is an evolving set of practices, an ongoing personal adventure. Alongside developing clarity on the big picture, I help people put their shoulders to the wheel and develop truly productive life habits and structures. Today I'm offering you a high leverage tip that magnetizes productivity, and reminding you of a few habits that you already know are the very foundation of a highly productive life.

The Four Simple Truths: (The ones that you already know)

1. Get enough sleep

2. Eat well

3. Exercise often

4. Contemplate daily

Tip #1 –Determine One Thing That Will Make a Difference

Take a look at your long list of to-dos and ask yourself:

What is the one thing that will make the difference if I get it done today?

Choose one thing that will have an impact, that is feasible to accomplish today.Write that down in bold letters across the top of your list, then orchestrate your day to accomplish that one task and let the rest of your to-dos follow suit --  believe me they will! Drive your day with the one thing that will make a difference, keep putting your time, attention and energy on it. When you get it done shout out, “Yes!”

Check in with your list at the end of the day and take note of all your accomplishments. Celebrate your wins and let them give you energy. Then determine what the "one thing" is for tomorrow and put that at the top of the list, big and bold,  before you close up the day. Set it up so the “one thing” greets you in the morning when you start your day.Do the "one thing" on a daily basis and keep repeating.The "one thing" will serve as a magnet, attracting your accomplishments with each daily, “Yes!” that you shout out. You will be amazed at the momentum that putting this simple tip into practice will produce.

This simple tip addresses focusing your attention in the midst of distraction and complexity. Your own productivity challenge may call for a different approach. Contact me for a free initial coaching consultation.To learn more about productivity read on.

So, what do I mean when I use the term productivity? Well, I don’t mean just getting things done. Productivity is the result of using your time, energy and attention in concert such that you are sustainably making progress on the things that support your well-being and bring meaning to your life. Productivity is the driver of fulfilling our promise. Being truly productive creates momentum. It gives us juice!

In the weeks to come I’ll offer more tips on working with time, energy and attention more effectively. But now I want to explore the four simple truths.They are the foundation of a sustainably productive life. They are “no brainers” but many of us have trouble maintaining at least one of them and when we get stressed they tend to fall away leaving us depleted, unfocused and moody. A productive life is built on a solid albeit simple foundation. Nothing will get you more productive than getting these four in place. Nothing will challenge their dynamic equilibrium more than success. So, let go of doing it perfectly, be kind to yourself, and enjoy the ride!

Invite yourself to continually work the four simple truths into your life habits:

Get Enough Sleep – Work with your bio-rhythms and make it a priority

• Refrain from caffeine in the second half of your day

• Sleep clean -- in a room free of the distractions of TV, tablet, and phone

• Invest in an old-fashioned alarm clock and charge your phone in another room

• Take naps if at all possible (10-30 minutes is optimal. Too long and you will wake up groggy)

Eat well – Keep it simple and delicious

• Eat early and well over the course of the day

• Include lots of leafy green vegetables in your diet

• Get enough protein

• Limit your sugar intake

• Drink plenty of water

Exercise Regularly- Moderation is key to keeping it daily

• Greet the day with a quick walk or run (10- 20 minutes)

• Take a short walk during your lunch break

• Ride your bike or walk, if possible

• Build upper body strength somehow – lift weights, stack wood, carry children

• Take an exercise class or go to the gym regularly

Develop a Contemplative Practice – Build your Jedi brain capacity and reduce the allostatic load of modern life

• If you already have one: Commit to it and deepen it.

• If you haven’t established one yet: Investigate a way to “meditate” that is right for you.There are many methods available for busy people with busy minds from many traditions.

My next posts will introduce the productivity triad of Time, Energy, and Attention. I’ll be offering you ways to boost and harmonize these three critical elements to achieve true productivity.In the meantime, try focusing your attention by using Tip #1 to hone in on the one thing that will make the difference, and shore up the very foundation of your productivity by inviting yourself to implement the four simple truths.

If you feel called to action and you want to work closely with me in a program that I design just for you, click here to schedule a free initial consultation.

I hope that you are enjoying these glorious summer days as much as I am!

Warmly, Lyedie Geer